Fight with your mate? Want to make it better in a hurry? Research in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology says instead of trying to win the argument, simply say “I see where you’re coming from”. It does two things, say the researchers, it demonstrates you’re listening and also validates your partner’s perspective – neutralizing the blame game. Regardless of what they were bickering about, people who felt that their partner understood their point of view actually felt happier with their relationship overall.